Would it violate your moral code to go snooping around on a boyfriend/girlfriend when you're having relationship problems and you suspect the person of cheating?  If the boyfriend/girlfriend has failed to password protect their tablet, phone, or computer is it okay to read through the text and email messages?  Where do you draw the line between checking things out and engaging in unethical behavior?

shine89

Don't do others what you don't want to be done to you. I hate it if others read through my accounts, so I never do that to someone else. That includes pestering them for passwords. Some may argue that it's okay to play dirty if the other side does the same thing, but I don't want to go that far.

randomer2000
Jeroen

Reading someone else's communication without them knowing is wrong. If you feel the need to snoop, you might as well break up immediately...

BlueOnyx76

I have done so in the past but I have not done it once with my husband. He has never given me a reason to doubt him on anything. I guess when I was younger, the guys I dated always gave me reasons not to trust them. Is it wrong? Absolutely, but I think most people in relationships that lack trust do this. 

johnd

The most important thing in a reliationship is trust...

in yourself.

You are in a relationship for love, so you dont need to mate guard or anything. If you have a bad feeling or the need to snoop or you are sure your partner is a cheater, then the things are bad and you should to end the relationship and leave, the life continues.

 

writing prodigy
Jeroen
TwoandTwo

If it is the boyfriend/girlfriend stage of the relationship, I'm the type of person that doesn't want to know. I would say that I don't care, but that would sound a bit too harsh, so I'll just go with I don't want to know. As long as my mate is being good to me and our relationship feels right, then whatever is in his wallet, on his phone, or on his computer I have no use for that type of information. If he started to treat me poorly or I started to feel a certain type of vibe from him, like he's not respecting me, then I wouldn't snoop to find out if there is someone else, I'd just end the relationship. 

OliveJones

I think that it is totally wrong to go prying into somebody else's private business, social media accounts, and so on. If you feel that you have to do it, then you do not really have a good relationship. Also, I would not want somebody to do that to me, so I would not do it to somebody else.

The same goes for personal belongings - I would not search through another person's things.