Today we seem to live in a world that tells us we need to be agreeable, pick sides, and go with the flow of the general public or we are considered bad people. I think this is wrong. Not everyone is going to agree and it is a good thing. Not agreeing sparks new inventions, growth, ideas, and beyond that - it brings people closer together longterm. 


For the most part, I think disagreeing is perfectly l fine, so long as everyone remains respectful.  Listening to opposition is how we grow.  Today, though, it feels like people aren't interested in truly listening to the other side.  Instead, it's more about shoring up your own viewpoint and yelling louder and if that doesn't work, resort to personal insults.

On the other hand, I think there are some subjects that allow no room for disagreement..  It's not okay to suggest that slavery is fine, the Holocaust never happened, or that one race or gender is better than the other.  I believe taking a live and let live approach towards such beliefs harms our state of morality.  



I think that it takes courage to disagree with people in an open and respectful way. You're so right, not everyone is going to agree and that is a good thing. Take for instance a relationship, I think that if two people, whether they are close friends or romantically involved-- if they don't ever disagree, then the relationship is not honest because someone is holding back their truth, or scared to speak up.  You can't agree with everyone 100% of the time. Whoever said, "If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything" is right. 


More on topic. I am active on several forums. Some have a system where you can give a positive or negative point (either called "respect", "karma", "reputation" or something similar). I find that most people just downrate everything they disagree with. I try to rate based on the quality of the post. I can hate your position. I can even hate your gut. But if you make a post which actually adds value to the discussion, I will rate you positively.


I love everything that's been said so far in this discussion - and, no - that's not me just agreeing for agreeing's sake :)

I try to choose my battles wisely because I don't think some things are worth stating my differing opinion over.  For instance, a friend of mine doesn't like to eat out anywhere because he says the restaurants always make him sick.  I don't agree with his position, but he's a good friend, so it's worth it to just find somewhere else to meet and hang out.  

I think disagreeing is a good thing - it helps us grow and see other perspectives.  Sometimes my friends tell me things I don't necessarily like hearing, but I really respect them for doing so because it often helps me see things differently and helps me become a better person.  

Ridgeway Pass

Conform or be cast out. It's been this way for quite a few decades now, but you're right, the efforts to make people do this seem to have been amped up lately. The race to the bottom is in full swing and everyone wants to win that race. 

Count me out. 


Let us therefore agree to disagree! wink

I like what Voltaire said: "I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it." How many of us are willing in doing this? In our society today, we easily get hurt when people disagree with us.